by Megan McDonough
I was in the halls of Kripalu on my way to lunch when a wonderful young student from the Certificate in Positive Psychology course stopped me. With a radiant smile and tears in her eyes she pulled me aside and said, “I’ve never felt so much like myself.”
Being who you really are seems so utterly simple. Who else would you be if not yourself?
What does “feeling like yourself” mean, anyway?
I’m fascinated with that odd question, which reminds me of the Zen kōan, “What is the sound of one hand clapping?”
How could I feel other than me, since I am the one experiencing the “me-ness”?
Apparently, there are multitudes of ways we can be imposters in our own life. We all experience times when we feel off-course and separated in some intangible but undeniable way from our own authentic self. Perhaps it’s a bad marriage, work that leaves us empty or uninspired, or an illness that saps vitality. Finding our way back to our authentic self is a difficult and treacherous journey. It’s what Joseph Campbell calls the hero’s journey.
The student’s comment (which I’ve heard more than once since then) hits the bull’s-eye of my own experience in the course, describing a kinesthetic feeling of coming home to one’s self.
Think back to a time when you felt natural, at ease, and completely yourself. A time when you were comfortable in your own skin—if only for a millisecond or two. How did your body move? What was the quality of your mind? What emotions were present?
There is a natural, organic way of being when you find yourself. We may want to be able to bend steel with our bare hands, sail though the sky on a spider thread, see everything with x-ray vision, or leap tall buildings in a single bound. But there is one ultimate superpower you already possess: the ability you have to be uniquely and wonderfully you. And you’re the only one in the entire galaxy who owns it.
How many times today can you gift those around you with a glimpse of your superpower? Unlike Superman, you do not need to hide your identity, find a phone booth to change in, or worry about Kryptonite.
May the force be with you,
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Megan McDonough is CEO of Wholebeing Institute, an educational organization co-founded with Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar. WBI is committed to spreading ideas and practices that can help individuals and groups live life to its fullest.
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Speaking about superpowers, I just saw the new superman movie last night. Even with his abilities, Clark Kent had to find a way to “get comfortable” in his own skin. He had to find the hidden power beneath the obvious power, harnessing both to beat the bad guys.
Thanks for sharing this Megan. This reminder to embrace my “me-ness” and live an authentic life comes at a perfect time for me. I think there is a reason I stumbled across this today!
With love and gratitude,
Embracing the “me-ness” sounds perfect! Thanks Linda.
I have been knocked out of commission for a month now — new puppy, cement steps — OUCH!! Well, that’s one way to create space to take another look at me. thanks Megan!
Thank you Megan. We are most ourselves when we find our flow, and it is often in interesting places. Just had a great visit with Meg Murtha and Amaryn Clare from CIPP. Felt fully in flow with them; ahhhh. Also in every day life, especially when I honor myself and take the time for meditation. So much clarity comes my way. Glad to see this post and look forward to more.
Glad to hear about the in-person visits! Wonderful way to continue the CiPP connection. Threadsong, puppies and cement steps do not mix well. Heal fast.