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New Year, New Story

Posted on Jan 2, 2019 in blog, Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual

by Portland Helmich When my ex-husband and I were first splitting up, I was overcome by a powerful need to share the story of our breakup with my dearest friends. Over and over, I detailed the subtle series of events that led up to our eventual decision to part ways. In telling the story many times over to any trusted friend who would listen, I was helping myself understand what had caused the demise of the most important relationship I’d...

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Why Saying No to Someone Else Can Be a Yes for You

Posted on Dec 26, 2018 in blog, Emotional, Intellectual, Physical, Relational, Spiritual

by Joan Borysenko One of the most important self-care tools is the ability to say no. Standing up for ourselves, our loved ones, our business interests, and our values without guilt, fear, shame, or anger keeps us in the driver’s seat. Bill Ury, cofounder of Harvard’s Program on Negotiation, wrote an excellent book, The Power of a Positive No. Bill negotiates for companies, countries, peace, and to make this world a better place in all his...

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A Pause to Pay Attention

Posted on Dec 19, 2018 in blog, Emotional, Physical, Relational, Spiritual

by Megan McDonough Where your attention goes, energy flows. That’s why we’re constantly exhausted during the holidays—our attention is focused on everyone else, our energy drains out, and we become depleted. We have just allowed our self to become invisible to our self. The solution is simple: Pay attention to you. Notice your socked feet against the floor as you make breakfast. Feel your breathing as you rush to the mall. Notice the...

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Choosing Presence Over Presents

Posted on Dec 12, 2018 in blog, Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual

by Kim Childs In recent years, I’ve become a bit of a Scrooge when it comes to holiday gifts. It’s not that I don’t want to give to the people I love, I just dislike the whole shopping scene and the enforced buying of things that I’m not sure they’ll even like. Lately, I’ve been trying something else: If I don’t find a truly meaningful present for someone, I give them my presence. I’m offering brunch, lunch, movie, and other...

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Actively Appreciating the People We Love

Posted on Dec 5, 2018 in blog, Emotional, Intellectual, Physical, Relational, Spiritual

by Lynda Wallace One of the best parts of life is spending time with people we love. And one of the best steps we can take to really enjoy that time is to actively appreciate the ways in which our loved ones enrich our lives. So let’s turn our attention to appreciating the people who help make our lives good—with two questions to consider and one small step to take. Question One: Who are some of the people who add joy, laughter, or love...

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My 30 Days of Saying No

Posted on Nov 28, 2018 in blog, Emotional, Intellectual, Relational, Spiritual

by Kelly Fredrickson My good friend Maria Sirois wisely says, “No is a sentence—learn how to use it.” Like everything else that is worthwhile to do, it is great in theory but hard in practice. During My Year of Whittling, I learned that the only way to truly change my behavior and live a different way was to practice the way I wanted to be. I did a series of 30-day practices and learned that the brain is plastic and can be...

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